God Could I Talk To Mom For a Minute?

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The trials and tribulations our family have went through this past year has, at times, put faith to test.  But because of God’s grace and love we have grown stronger in our faith and continue to find the good in all things.  One of the things that has helped me deal with the loss of my father in-law (dad) and mother in-law (mom), is my daily conversations with God and writing letters to them.  I also talk to dad as I drive to work in the morning, it’s an hour drive and I tend to talk a lot but I have found that dad is a great listener.  His favorite line was “just be quiet and listen”.

I pray that if you are going through a loss and you feel as if you are alone and with nobody to talk to, remember that God is always listening.  Sit and talk to Him, let it all out.  He will listen, He does understand, and He will comfort you and love you.  I urge you to write a letter to the person you lost.  Just like a prayer, the words do not have to be perfect.  Write from the heart, write about the day, about memories, your sadness, write about anything that is in your heart that you feel you need to get out.  I do this almost daily. Sometimes the letters are long, sometimes the only thing I write is,  I Love You!  If you’re unsure about the letter, here is mine for today.

Hi mom,

It’s been awhile since I sat down and put pen to paper but everyday I think of you and during the quiet times in my day, I talk to you.  It’s not really quiet right now, a little loud, but a good loud.  Haley is giving your great grandson a bath and they sound like they are having way to much fun with the water.  Your daughter is asleep in the bedroom, (just like dad, supposedly watching TV) and I thought I would write to you, let you know how we are doing, and that you are forever in our thoughts and in our hearts.

Today was one of those fall Sundays where the sky was cloudy with a bit of sun here and there, a chill to the breeze, and Detroit Lion football on TV.  Your beautiful daughter put a turkey in the oven today and the smells, the weather, the familiarity of the day hit her hard.  It filled her with memories of being at your house on Sundays after church and watching the game.  Dad and I stretched out on the floor, you on the couch crocheting and Carol in the recliner.  And the tears came, and they came hard.  She misses you so much.  Sometimes she catches herself in the evening when she heads out to the balcony, “I’m going out to call….” and her words and thoughts trail off.  Today was one of those days, a day where memories filled our hearts and we thanked God for giving you to us.

Well your great grandson is out of the bath and wants to wrestle a bit before bedtime and I don’t want to disappoint, so I’ll end this for now.  Tell dad that I miss him something awful and that I will talk to him tomorrow during my ride to work as I always do.  I love you mom and everyday it gets a little better.

“Let not your hearts be troubled. Believe in God; believe also in me. In my Father’s house are many rooms. If it were not so, would I have told you that I go to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come again and will take you to myself, that where I am you may be also. And you know the way to where I am going.”

John 14:1-4

Lord, thank you for being my rock and my strength. I know you have a plan for each of us. But right now I’m hurting, and that hurt runs deep. Lord, I know that you are a comfort for me, and I pray that you continue to be by my side through this time. Everyone keeps saying that time will ease what I’m going through, but at times I feel angry, hurt and alone. I don’t know if time will help me, but I know you will. I cannot imagine going through this without you holding me up.

Sometimes, Lord, it’s just hard to look at tomorrow, and I just don’t know how I will get through the day without mom and dad in my life. Lord, I just ask for you to be here for me. I pray for you to give me strength to take another step. I need you to help me cope with the loneliness and to move forward in my life. Please, Lord, help make each day a little easier. Continue to provide me with hope for tomorrow. I know I will never stop missing mom and dad, but I hope that you are holding them closely. Thank you, Lord for always being here for me. In Your Name I pray, Amen.

God Knows Better Than I


There is a parable that tells of two godly old men who planted olive trees so that someday they could have olives to eat and have a supply of oil. As the first one planted his tree, he prayed: “Lord, it needs rain, that its tender roots may drink and swell. Please send gentle showers.” And the Lord sent gentle showers. “Lord,” he prayed again, “my tree needs warmth; please send sunshine.” And the Lord sent sunshine.” “Now send frost, Lord, to make its fibers tough.” And, behold, the little tree stood sparkling with frost.

But one evening it died. The next day he went to see his friend and found his tree growing well.

“I prayed for rain and sun and frost,” he said, “and my tree died.”

Then his friend said, “I entrusted my tree to God. God made it, He knows better than I what it needs. So I make no conditions, but simply pray, “Lord, send what it needs. Storm or sunshine, wind, rain, or frost, as Thou knowest what is best’; and behold, it grows well!”

So whatever God permits to come into your life, easy experiences or hard ones, joy or sorrow, you can be sure that God is permitting it so you can grow up in favor with God and with man.

It was like God was telling me


Stranger gives man a new car in a random act of kindness

The kindness of a stranger paid off in a big way for a Ringgold, GA man. The man was down on his luck and needed a new car. He says his prayers were answered when a new one was given to him Thursday.

Cody Abercrombie has been working at the same Ringgold restaurant for the past 4 years. Before that, he worked in Tiftonia and would make the four hour, one-way trip on his bike to get to work on time. He is a very dedicated worker and it is that dedication that a complete stranger recognized.

The sound if his new Explorer starting up is music to Cody Abercrombie’s ears. It beats the 30 minute bike ride or the one hour walk to his job in Ringgold.

“It’s good. It’s a blessing,” says Abercrombie.

Cody is a quiet guy and was down on his luck when his old car bit the dust. Enter Mark Sexton, a frequent customer of Cody’s.

“He was in a great mood. He was just sharing his story with me, didn’t ask for anything, didn’t complain about riding the bike. It just kind of hit me about how dedicated you’d have to be to work to ride a bicycle everyday,” says Sexton.

And that is when Mark decided to take action.

“It didn’t really hit me until I got out in the parking lot. I couldn’t leave. It was like God was telling me that I needed to try and help the kid out. I didn’t go back in. I just made a post on Facebook basically as a prayer request,” says Sexton.

And it snowballed from there. People started donating money to help buy Cody a new car.

“I really didn’t think anything about it and then he shows up and everything and helps me out and them I’m like, miracles do happen,” says Abercrombie.

“Me and my wife dropped it off around 3 o’clock and he came out and looked at it and he was beyond excited. He couldn’t believe it,” says Sexton.

For Cody, it is not only a new car, but also a better assurance for providing for his family.

When asked why he is so dedicated, Abercrombie says, “I guess you’ve got to be dedicated to work and everything to prove that you do want to keep your job.”

“Maybe the story will touch somebody and they’ll try to go out and do the same thing,” says Sexton.

“I just thank God for Him blessing Mark and Mark helping me out,” says Abercrombie.

About 15 people total helped raise the money to buy the car.

Mark can not emphasize enough that any employer would be lucky to have Cody’s work-ethic and positivity. He hopes that his act of kindness is contagious and others open their eyes to how they can help strangers in their communities.

Story via Suspended Coffee Facebook